Should I let the passing of time dictate the outcome? Know the reality of the situation, and how long it might realistically take you to find a new apartment. Learn to accept your platonic relationship. I think he needs to get out in the real world, start casually dating, and see if he can get over this girl before asking her to move out. Sometimes I can hardly eat. Look for signs that your roommate has feelings for you.
And just ask her casually if she wants to go to the movies for example. I suffer from bipolar disorder, and my moods, feelings, and emotions can change. It can be intimidating and creepy. If you're not going to date this man, you should be able to live where you don't have to wonder about him every day. So, one of you has to move out. Those are heavy emotions and may scare her. In either scenario, your roommate may say they need some time to think.
It's just that you have a crush or infatuation with her. It was the absolute worst pain emotionally still living together after it not working out. Not only will engaging in activities outside the house be good for you, it will also help you put your feelings in perspective, and may even help you get over those feelings. Have you tried going on a few dates with different people to see if your feelings for your roommate diminish? She and I have been single pretty much the whole time, and we spend a lot of time together. Most importantly, whether or not you will remain roommates, or if one of you will move out. Sometimes moving furniture is easier than all of the red tape.
Living together was never going to be a forever thing anyway. Feel free to respond in the comments section. At first, things are awkward and embarrassing, but once the two become aware of their mutual feelings, their life takes a turn for the sweet. I am thinking since this is my fault I probably should just move, and leave the place to her and transfer the lease. Depending on where you live, and how difficult finding a new place is, this could range from weeks to months. Simply try to accept that feelings have developed.
Maintain a life outside the apartment. When we have feelings for someone, we tend to see what we want to see. I was hoping you would interpret what I wrote as an opportunity to evaluate your feelings for your roommate and make an introspective analysis on your own life. Spend time with your own friends, or find a new hobby. A 26 year old guy was interested in me. If it is, and it can be transferred to her without any repercussions on my end, I will move and just get a fresh start. Keeping things as normal as possible will give you time to think about your feelings and time to decide what to do without shaking things up, and forcing you to make rash decisions.
. The best way to fall out of love is to fall in love with someone else. You say that you are pretty confident that she has zero interest in you. Ichitaro, who had already taken a liking toward her, happily accepts, signaling the beginning of their new together. Stop focusing on your roommate.
Try finding a part-time job that will get you out of the house or spend more time studying in the library. Suddenly, a guy walking on the street along the patio starts talking to her and eventually comes to sit with her for a solid 30 minutes. When they talk to you do they give you their full attention, or do they talk to you without looking at you? So, what do I do? This might be an option for you if you will need a bit of time to find a new place, and if staying in the apartment will cause too much stress and awkwardness. She was your bestie and you got to spend lots of time together since neither of you were in a relationship. At first I thought it was just infatuation. So my feeling is that she might have a hang-up over the age difference — you mention that she dates mostly guys around her age. Could you find a new roommate if they choose to move out themselves? Tell them that you have something important to tell them, and that you hope that, regardless of the outcome, you can still be friends.
If you can find a friend or family member to stay with for a few weeks, you will have some time to look for a new place, as well as some space to deal with your feelings. All the furniture is hers, but the place is mine. I am not that old! A story of a boy facing his beloved girl! The fact that you guys spent so much time together and that you became close over time leads me to believe that she likes you too. If you start behaving strangely, your roommate may think something is up, and they may even think that they have done something wrong. You and your feelings are just making the decision for her — and perhaps a little sooner that she may have preferred. Don't make a big deal of it. Make sure you tell her how much you've enjoyed her company.
With your name on the lease, you have the final say. And he is a really nice guy. My only piece of advice — beyond seeking the care you need for your mental health — is to remember that you do not know what it's like to date this roommate. And don't tell her anything except that you really enjoy her company. You can read about me , peruse the archives and read popular posts. Determine whether or not the feelings are mutual.
If not, would you be able to find a suitable replacement roommate to take over your share of the rent? Try to be delicate, and avoid making them feel like it is their fault, if at all possible. I just wanted to interject some things based on the two comments you wrote Again, thank you for sharing! Either by confessing them, or by moving out to get some space. Give your roommate a time frame. Loca-Love is a visual novel with art by Nanaca Mai, of Corona Blossom and Grisaia fame, and a story by Japanese writer Hozumi Kei, famous for his sweet and romantic love stories. Take a little control of the situation. I have said it on here before, if you are renting from a big corporation or just a jerk, they will use any alteration in the lease agreement to take you for as much money as they can.